Where’d You Learn That?

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I’m not sure about most moms, but during the day I often need other adult voices to fill the space in the room, so I will typically leave the television on in the background. I’ll tune in to a news program like The Today Show or to a DIY network; which is where it will usually stay until the afternoon when I’ll flip it over to TBS for a barrage of old sitcoms; Seinfeld, Everybody Loves Raymond, etc.

The other day, my son and I were playing in the living room when out of nowhere I hear someone shout “That b#%ch!” Being less than a year old, my son paid no attention to it at all, but for me, the words lingered in the air like a bad smell. As I turned around to see what obviously inappropriate TV show had come on, and I was shocked to see it wasn’t some trashy show at all, but Friends. Since when did Friends use such language?? And why am I so offended by this??

Now, with the exception of the occasional slip of the tongue, my husband and I don’t really curse, but we also don’t limit what we watch or listen to simply because there might be salty language or content. Some of our favorite shows include Breaking Bad, South Park, and Mad Men. These are all shows that I would obviously prohibit my son from watching, but for some reason, it never occurred to me that something as innocent as daytime TV might also be influencing him negatively. After all, he’s not the one watching it, right?

According to Dr. Andrew N. Meltzoff (an infant psychology), by the age of 2 most children have about 100 words in their vocabulary. By 2 ½, they’ll have added another 100. Almost all of the words children learn will be through listening to their parents speaking with them, through books being read to them, and listening to parents communicate with each other. And of course, children will also learn through 3rd parties like television and music.

Although I originally used the excuse that he’s too young to understand, I am beginning to realize that it’s not about comprehension; it’s about mimicking, and right now is a critical time for language development and learning the words he’ll use for the rest of his life. I teach my son new words each day like “book,” “ball,” and “car,” but how mortified would I be if one of those words ended up being “b#%ch” courtesy of the TV?

As we’ve taken on the role of parents, there are a lot habits we’ve had to change in our lives to be more baby friendly. We’ve baby-proofed the house to protect him from dangerous corners and electrocution. We organize our evenings based on his bed schedule. We’ve even talked about changing the radio station away from popular music once he gets old enough to understand lyrics. (Sorry Flo Rida & Nicki Minaj!) And with this realization, we’ve recently added one more. . . I’m going to start being more aware of what’s on in the background.

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Krystal Hurst
Krystal is a Dallas-native who began her career as a fourth grade teacher in Richardson RISD, but quickly changed paths to became a stay-at-home mom in 2011. Through a happy coincidence, she stumbled upon (what was then known as) Dallas Moms Blog in 2012 and found a community she’d been looking for since coming a mom. Shortly after joining the team, she gratefully accepted the “baton” passed to her as new owner of the site, and took off with it running full speed! Krystal not only helped to grow Dallas Moms into a large parenting resource, but also launched Collin County Moms in 2016; providing those in the north Dallas suburbs their community resource platform. While building a community, uniting the moms, and growing a business around this passion was a dream come true, after almost 10 years, Krystal officially stepped down as owner, and is now focusing on raising her 4 boys with her husband, Tim, and rediscovering old hobbies.

3 COMMENTS

  1. Great post. Thanks for reminding me that my kids are picking up on EVERYTHING. I usually turn on the Today Show while we eat breakfast, and just yesterday there was a story of a man killing his wife. Chloe looked up and said, “Why did he do that??” OH my word. She is three and doesn’t need to know that stuff even exists right now!

  2. awesome post Krystal.  I too, love to feel like there are other adults in the room, someone besides Barney and the Wiggles but this is a gentle reminder of how important our roles as mommies are to these precious little people!

  3. I really enjoyed your post. I am the grandmama and this made me think about the shows granddad maybe watchingwhen we babysit. I hadn’t thought about that since my own kids left home. But i will now. Thanks for reminding all of us play a part in what a child learns.

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