The holidays can be tough for many reasons. All the planning in the world won’t alleviate the unknowns and “what ifs” ahead. Oh, let me count the ways things can go awry.
As moms, we worry about everything from what our kids wear and eat (or don’t) to behavior and manners. We worry about everyone having fun and making Instagram-worthy memories. Moms spend so much time and energy making the holidays magical for others. The one thing we tend to forget is ourselves.
That’s right — what about us?! Are we allowed to make ourselves a priority? Is that in the mom handbook? We tend to now have healthy holidays, mentally or physically.
Be “That Mom”
In my professional life and as a mom, I’m encouraging you to be “that mom.” Be the mom who doesn’t sacrifice everything she has for the sake of the holidays. Better yet, be “that mom” who makes her health a priority.
Health includes physical, mental, emotional, financial, and social aspects. Balancing all aspects of health is challenging. Focusing on one aspect or goal at a time is a practical way to be “that mom.”
Step 1: Prioritize
The first step is to identify the area of health you want to focus on. If you’re not sure what to pick, ask yourself three questions:
- What is my biggest holiday stressor?
- What helps me decompress and de-stress?
- What goals have I been working on this year?
Also consider your individual needs. Some things are non-negotiable, like taking medications. Physical activity and time alone can also be non-negotiables.
If your needs are all you have the bandwidth for, that is okay! Focusing on what you can do sets you up for success and feeling confident through the holidays.
Still not sure what to focus on? Here’s some examples:
- Exercise twice per week.
- Eat regular meals for energy.
- Protect my mental health from family.
Step 2: Plan
Moms know a good plan is worth its weight in gold. Once you have a focal point, a.k.a. goal, you need a plan. Write your goal down, put it on your calendar, tell your family and friends, set reminders, adjust your schedule, put whatever structures and reminders in place now.
Some goals are easier to plan than others. Exercise, budgeting, and nutrition are areas where you can be proactive. Other goals, like protecting your mental health, can require more preparation.
Comments from family can be stressful and tough to rebound from. While you can’t control others, you can plan and practice your reaction.
Step 3: Execute
It’s go time! You’ve prioritized and planned. The tough part is behind you. Moms plan for their family and ensure things get done. Don’t let your plans be any different.
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Track your progress for accountability and encouragement. Type notes on your phone when something comes to mind to reference later. Think through what you’ll say or do when a situation arises. Whatever your goal is, you can do it!
Check in with yourself regularly and adjust your plans as needed. Making your health a priority during the holidays should be a positive experience. Be “that mom” who does more than survive the holidays. I want you to thrive.
Can You Just Tell Me What To Do?
As a registered dietitian and mom, I always have tips up my sleeve. While I do encourage clients to set SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, timely) unique to them, I also recognize the value in idea sharing. Here are two examples to guide you in having healthy, happy holidays.
Goal :: Eat regular meals for energy.
Execution :: Include protein, color (vegetables/fruit), and carbohydrates on your plate. Explore meal options before serving yourself and choose foods that most excite you. Be present while eating, rest your fork, and savor the flavors.
Goal :: Protect my mental health from family comments.
Execution :: Comment from family member about your toddler: “No wonder he’s so skinny; he barely ate anything. If you make him sit longer, he’ll eat more. He definitely doesn’t get dessert; he didn’t even eat the food on his plate, only rolls.”
Your planned response: “He ate what he wanted and is now playing quietly. We don’t require him to eat a specific amount or earn his dessert. He’s great at honoring his hunger and fullness cues.”
Now What?
I hope you start the new year feeling invigorated and proud. I hope you feel content and joyous about the holidays. I hope you continue being “that mom.” You deserve it! Have a happy, healthy holidays!
